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Grief Therapy

Benefits of Grief Therapy

What is Grief Therapy?

Grief Psychotherapy aims to help people cope with the physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and cognitive responses to loss. These experiences are commonly thought to be brought on by a loved person's death but may more broadly be understood as shaped by any significant life-altering loss (divorce, bankruptcy, death, or job loss).

Grief Therapy provides work with their clients to help them find a healthy resolution to their loss. When the process of grieving is interrupted, for example, by the one who is grieving having to simultaneously deal with practical issues of survival or by their having to be the strong one who is striving to hold their family together, grief can remain unresolved and later resurface as an issue for therapy.

What is Grief Counselling?

Everyone experiences and expresses grief in personally unique ways shaped by family background, culture, life experiences, personal values, and intrinsic beliefs.

Grief Psychotherapy is a specialized therapy that supports individuals experiencing grief and loss. It recognizes that the grieving process is unique to each person and involves a range of emotions, thoughts, and physical sensations.

In Grief Therapy, the therapist provides a safe and compassionate space for clients to explore and express their feelings of sadness, anger, guilt, confusion, and other emotions associated with their loss. The therapist acknowledges and validates these emotions, helping the client navigate the complex and often overwhelming grieving process.

The therapist assists the client in understanding the various stages and tasks of grief, such as accepting the reality of the loss, experiencing the pain of grief, adjusting to a new reality, and finding ways to reinvest in life. They may use therapeutic techniques, such as active listening, empathy, and validation, to facilitate the client's healing and adjustment to the loss.

Grief Therapy also focuses on helping clients develop healthy coping mechanisms, self-care strategies, and a support network to navigate the challenges of grief. Therapists may guide clients in finding meaning and purpose in their lives after the loss and assist them in finding ways to honor and remember their loved ones while continuing to live fulfilling lives.

Overall, Grief Therapy provides a compassionate and supportive therapeutic space where individuals can process their grief, gain insights, and ultimately find ways to heal and move forward while honoring the memory of their loss.

Grieving and Mourning

Grief is our natural response and private reaction to loss; there is nothing unhealthy or problematic about grieving. Grief is wishing things would have ended differently, better, or less painfully.

Mourning is the process we go through to adapt to our loss. Emotional and physical experiences are clues that let us know we’re managing a loss that means something to us.

Approximately 40 percent of grieving people will struggle with anxiety in the first year following their loss. Grieving people find themselves crying unexpectedly, waking up with headaches, feeling emotionally numb, having trouble sleeping, eating too much or too little, and carrying around a weight of sadness all day.

Grieving and Mourning

The Therapy Session

Therapy sessions are typically held weekly or bi-weekly. Clients share personal feelings and thoughts in an open and supportive environment.

Therapy can be short-term (a few sessions), dealing with immediate issues, or long-term (months), dealing with long-standing and more complex issues.

The Counselling Session

Clues That You’re Grieving

These signs will give you a clue that you’re grieving, even if you’re not aware of it.

Physical Reactions

Being short of breath
Feeling very tired
Experiencing restlessness

Emotional Reactions

Feelings of shock, fear, anxiety, guilt, and anger
Blaming yourself or others for the loss

Mental Reactions

Feeling confused
Experiencing difficulties making decisions

Social Reactions

Avoiding other people
Overreacting or reacting strongly to others

Spiritual Reactions

Contemplating why pain and suffering exist
Asking the universe why the loss had to happen to you

Clues That You're Grieving

Why Counselling Might Be Right For You?

You’re just going through the motions of life.
You’re tired of coping and want to feel like you’re thriving.
Life feels way out of balance.
Things are basically okay but you have the sense that something is missing.

You wonder about the meaning of your life.
You want to create a new vision for your life, or you already have a vision but are having trouble fulfilling it.
You are bothered by fear and self-doubt.
You want to learn to feel confident.

Why Counselling?

The Grieving Process

What is Grief?

Grief can vary between individuals. However, there are still global trends in how people cope with loss. Psychologists and researchers have outlined various models of grief. Some of the most familiar models include the five stages of grief, the four mourning tasks, and the dual-process model.

The Five Stages of Grief

In 1969, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identified five linear stages of grief:

Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance

The Grieving Process

Denial

Grieving Stage 1

Grief is an overwhelming emotion. It’s not unusual to respond to the intense and often sudden feelings by pretending the loss or change isn’t happening. Denying it gives you time to absorb the news and begin to process it more gradually. This is a common defence mechanism and helps numb you to the intensity of the situation.

As you move out of the denial stage, however, the emotions you’ve been hiding will begin to rise. You’ll be confronted with much sorrow you’ve denied. That is also part of the journey of grief, but it can be not easy.

Grieving Stage 1: Denial

Anger

Grieving Stage 2

Where denial may be a coping mechanism, anger is a masking effect. Anger is hiding many of the emotions and pain that you carry. You may redirect your anger at other people, such as the person who died, your ex, or your old boss. You may even aim your anger at inanimate objects.

While your rational brain knows the object of your anger isn’t to blame, your feelings at that moment are too intense to feel.

Anger may mask itself in feelings like bitterness or resentment. It may not be clear-cut fury or rage. Not everyone will experience this stage, and some may linger here. As the anger subsides, however, you may begin to think more rationally about what’s happening and feel the emotions you’ve been pushing aside.

Grieving Stage 2: Anger

Bargaining

Grieving Stage 3

During grief, you may feel vulnerable and helpless. In those intense emotions, it’s not uncommon to look for ways to regain control or want to feel like you can affect an event's outcome. You may find yourself creating a lot of “what if” and “if only” statements in the bargaining stage of grief.

It’s also not uncommon for religious individuals to make a deal or promise to God or a higher power in return for healing or relief from grief and pain. Bargaining is a line of defense against the emotions of grief. It helps you postpone the sadness, confusion, or hurt.

Grieving Stage 3: Bargaining

Depression

Grieving Stage 4

Depression may feel like a “quiet” stage of grief. In the early stages of loss, you may be running from the emotions, trying to stay a step ahead of them. By this point, however, you may be able to embrace and work through them more healthfully. You may also isolate yourself from others to cope with the loss entirely.

Like the other stages of grief, depression can be complicated and messy. It can feel overwhelming. You may feel foggy, heavy, and confused.

Depression may feel like the inevitable landing point of any loss. However, if you feel stuck here or can’t seem to move past this stage of grief, talk with a mental health expert. A therapist can help you work through this period of coping.

Grieving Stage 4: Depression

Acceptance

Grieving Stage 5

Acceptance is not necessarily a happy or uplifting stage of grief. It doesn’t mean you’ve moved past the grief or loss. It does, however, mean that you’ve accepted it and have come to understand what it means in your life now.

You may feel very different in this stage. That’s entirely expected. You’ve had a significant change in your life, which upsets how you think about many things. Look to acceptance as a way to see that there may be more good days than bad, but there may still be bad— and that’s okay.

Grieving Stage 5: Acceptance

The loss is never forgotten, but the grief survivor has more clarity, understanding, and meaning. They have started the process of knowing themselves at a deeper level. Resiliency begins to surface, and they learn their inner strengths outweigh the loss. Their memories will live on and provide comfort and hope for the future.

Resiliency

Grieving is Unique to Each Person

Grieving is a process that’s unique to each individual. The immediate impulse of the grief survivor is to feel well quickly and make the feelings go away. This is an entirely understandable and healthy reaction to difficult emotions. Sometimes the process feels like it’s taking too long, and at other times the grief survivor may question if they are doing it “right.”

Grieving is Unique to Each Person

Being gentle, patient, and compassionate with yourself is essential while moving through this healing process. The ultimate goal of grieving is to live with loss without it controlling or disrupting your life. Loss is a vital part of the human experience and something we all share in common.

Grieving can bring us together, and you may even experience post-grief growth.